By Taofik Adekunle Jimoh
Constant thoughts about death is like having a morsel hanged in one’s throat. This can also be mind consuming. That’s why I believe the best way to not get depressed is to stop thinking about death.
Contemplating the topic of death has long been associated with a range of emotions, including sadness and depression. While it is natural for such thoughts to evoke a sense of existential dread, it is essential to understand the factors behind these emotions and how they can be managed.
I was born a Muslim and we were taught to always think about death so much that we shouldn’t be thinking we would live till afternoon if we are in the morning, evening if we are in the afternoon and the other day if we are in the evening. While this is good for Islamic spirituality, consciousness and piousness, I must say it makes one depressed, shortsightedness and disinterested in many ways.
I for instance don’t know how long I have to live though I know how long I have lived. It’s like working so hard and much hoping to live so long to reap the fruit of labour. What if it comes tomorrow? There is always gripping fear of where, when, how and by who (if it’s written in my destiny that someone will kill me. I’m a fatalist.)
It’s a natural submission, as there’s nothing any human being can do to tilt the hands of death. I have once encountered some religionists who believe that death – especially ‘untimely’ – is by some sins so they pray so hard and try as much as possible to live pious lives. These kind of people are ardent to God because they believe as long as they remain Godly and religious, no evil including death will befall them and their loved ones. It is no surprise when you hear people querying God why some people close to them die as if they had some written agreements with God!
Mortality salience refers to the awareness of our own mortality, which can be triggered by thoughts, discussions, or reminders of death. Researchers have found that when individuals are reminded of their impending demise, they tend to experience increased levels of sadness and depression. This effect arises from the confrontation of existential questions and concerns about the transient nature of life.
Human beings often grapple with existential questions related to the meaning and purpose of life, which can intensify when thoughts of death come to the forefront. The acknowledgment of our mortality may trigger a sense of despair, leaving us questioning the value of our accomplishments or the significance of our existence. This psychological distress can contribute to symptoms of depression and sadness.
Cultural and personal belief systems significantly influence how individuals perceive and react to thoughts about death. In cultures that emphasize a positive afterlife or reincarnation, contemplation of death may bring about a sense of hope and a renewed focus on spiritual growth. Conversely, cultures with a more negative perception of death may amplify feelings of sadness or fear.
While contemplating death can bring about feelings of depression and sadness, it is crucial to recognize that these emotions are natural and can be managed effectively. By understanding the causes behind these emotional responses and employing coping strategies, individuals can navigate the complexities of mortality and find solace in the present moment.
Taofik Adekunle Jimoh (JAAT).
